A tragic tale of loss from the world’s ‘happiest’ country

A tragic tale of loss from the world’s ‘happiest’ country

By Mrutyaunjai Mishra | | 17 February, 2018
Kozue in Denmark; (inset) Kozue with her daughter. Photo: Mrutyuanjai Mishra
Kozue, a Japanese immigrant to Denmark, was separated from her seven-week-old daughter by the Child Protection Services of that country. This happened four years ago, and the two still live apart.

After my last piece in the Sunday Guardian about state-sponsored child snatching in Denmark and other Scandinavian countries, I was contacted by many people facing this tragic situation. One of the most poignant stories is of Kozue, a Japanese immigrant in Denmark. I write this just after returning home from having met Kozue, who sat in front of me crying while narrating the unbearable agony of losing her daughter to the Child Protection Services (CPS) in the richest county (commune), Gentofte, in Denmark.

Denmark is a signatory to many international conventions, and when addressing an immigrant mother, the authorities in Denmark are obliged to have an interpreter present. But when Kozue received a letter to meet the CPS, there was no interpreter. She had only been in Denmark for three years, and her daughter had just been born. At the crucial meeting she was told things in Danish which she hardly understood and given a paper with complicated language to sign. Feeling under pressure she signed as directed without really understanding anything.

Before she realised what she had agreed to, her daughter, just seven weeks old, was taken away and given in custody to a Danish foster family. Kozue’s daughter is now four years old.

Kozue is meek and gentle. As she sits before me speaking in her mild tone with tears rolling down her cheeks, I see the painful heart of a mother deprived of her child. She keeps telling me that no one would believe that such a thing could happen in a country like Denmark.

There are so many positive stories about Denmark in Japan that no one would believe that this happened to her. She, too, cannot believe that this is actually happening.

Under Danish law, it is incumbent on the authorities to facilitate contact between mother and child. Kozue tells me that her daughter misses her, and it is plain to see that Kozue too misses her dearly. But she is permitted to see her daughter only once a month for two hours. At each dearly awaited meeting, the foster family demands that she speak only in Danish or English with her daughter. There is no respect for the fact that she as a mother wants to communicate in a language in which she is fluent, and that her daughter has a right to know her mother tongue, Japanese. Kozue feels under surveillance at these meetings, with no privacy. The two hours pass by only too quickly and then she has the long wait for the next month’s appointment. No one seems to care that she is the biological mother of the child!

Kozue comes across as a normal and nice person. She is not taking any medicine or drugs. She does not have any addictions. In photos of her with her daughter, it is clear they share a close bond.

She tells me her life story, of how she was studying law in Japan, but quit her studies to take a job in the hospital sector to support her mother and brother. Her brother needed help to finish his own studies. She is a caring and responsible person. On a trip to Denmark she met and fell in love with a Dane. They married, and two years later Kozue became pregnant with their daughter. Sadly, Kozue’s husband turned out to be violent. She ran away from him while still pregnant, taking refuge in a women’s crisis centre (Kvindernes Krisecenter). Little did she know that she was walking into a trap.

Kozue gave birth while living in the crisis centre. It is then that the CPS made contact with her. They started writing reports against her in Danish and barging into her room at all hours. She felt deprived of sleep. The stress and disturbance affected her milk production, forcing her to give the baby bottle milk. She said she felt as though she was in a torture centre—these are her words to me.

Kozue believes that since she was alone, vulnerable and not conversant with either the language or the CPS, the authorities’ system deliberately targeted her to give away her child to a wealthy Danish family. Note that in Denmark, foster care is akin to adoption. “No social network” is often given by CPS in Scandinavia as a reason for finding single mothers unfit to parent. This was Kozue’s only fault, that as a foreigner, with her marriage to a Dane broken down, she had no network in Denmark. Being shy, Kozue did not have a wide social circle and was quite alone after becoming a single mother.

When she sought help of the Danish authorities after leaving her violent husband, Kozue had no idea that they could take her child away. Such separation of a mother and child would be unthinkable in Japan. She trusted the authorities. Trust is an important aspect of Japanese society. It is part of what makes Japanese society efficient and harmonious.

Days, months and now years have passed with Kozue and her daughter being forced to live apart. No one came to her aid, except for Erik Christensen. He was formerly employed in the Social Services and had worked on the scandalous state-sponsored removal of Inuit children from their families in Greenland by the Danish government in the late 1940s. He is helping Kozue take her case to the European Court of Human Rights in Strasbourg.

When Kozue stops talking to wipe her tears, Christensen jumps in to say that he as a Dane cannot understand how this case went so far. He lists at least 12 conventions and laws that have been violated by the authorities. He has helped Kozue contact the Japanese embassy and they are hoping the Japanese government will take up the case.

Is Kozue an exception?Is this an isolated case with no precedent in Denmark? No, says Christensen. He tells me that he saw many cases when he himself worked in the Social Services seeing children whose lives were shattered because of forced separation from their biological parents. He has seen girls who sit for hours in front of a wall, totally apathetic after the forced separation from their mothers. He tells me of a case where the foster family has sexually abused the child in their care. Christensen says that he feels ashamed that Denmark, which goes around telling the rest of world how to respect human rights, is not respecting one of the most fundamental rights: the right of a child to be with her biological mother.

Kozue tells me she could never have imagined such a thing would happen to her in a country known for the best welfare state, with compassion for the poor, and with all that she had read about Denmark.

She thought that patience and kindness would gradually help her convince the CPS that there was nothing wrong with her. But four years have passed with the Danish authorities unrelenting. One of the ladies working in the service (Sagsbehandler) from Gentofte County even told her that she could easily travel back to Japan without her child!

Kozue is from a highly educated family and feels pressurised from all directions. There is some element of shame. Things like this never ever happen in Japan and Kozue does not even feel comfortable telling her relatives about what
has happened.

Kozue tells me that as an immigrant in Denmark it is difficult to convince the local authorities about anything. Kozue’s hope is that the media will take up her case, and some decent lawyer with expertise in this field will help get her daughter back.

Kozue travelled to a Western country after having read that the grass is far greener and the flowers blossom there. She thought she had come to the“happiest” country of the world. Kozue is one of the unhappiest persons I have ever met, in the so-called happiest country of the world.

Mrutyuanjai Mishra writes regularly for Danish and Indian newspapers. At present he is based in Denmark and writes for the Danish newspaper, BT

There are 10 Comments

Shocking indeed but at least she can protest to the media identifying herself and child (or can she?) In the UK about 200 parents per year go to jail for breaking the enforced secrecy that surrounds the UK Family Courts

In Scandinavia is very difficult to convince media to write about your case... Nobody wants to put themselves in vulnerable situations, even media... It is very difficult to be heard or to protest. You feel very alone in such situations. Corruption flourishes in such circumstances.

Yes, Ian, as regards freedom of speech Britain is certainly the worst of the countries I keep track of regarding this issue. So far Norway, Sweden and Denmark have not forbidden the families to publicise their case. But I can tell you that if the family does so, it is used against them, as a proof that they do not care for "the child's best interest". Norway: It is punished with further sanctions when the family tries to get the children back, or the CPS cut down on the rare meetings which parents and children have been granted (ordinarily: 3 times a year, an hour or two under supervision; otherwise: twice or once a year. For a parent to be allowed to see the children every month is unusual). Certainly, both parents and others are not infrequently threatened, to make them shut up. Besides, there have been legislative changes here over several years, making the families' position increasingly difficult. For example, it is now punished by imprisonment to flee abroad with your children the minute the CPS sends their demand for take-over of custody to the County Committee (a preliminary to the courts), long before any court-decision. There are further new practices, rules and laws brewing also. I know of similar examples from Denmark. I had one very good and well-informed contact there (she has unfortunately died), and several others, I have also taken part in a demonstration in front of the Danish Supreme Court, and I remember several cases where publicity was used against the family and where the authorities told the families that it was illegal, and searched in everything they wrote on the web to find something actually illegal.

I would like to encourage you to file this case to the ICC in Den Haag. They have several reports/cases from Norway, and need more documentation of the systematic widespread crime of snatching children for the system, and also forcefully adopting them. This is criminal, and it happens all over. We need to collect this stories and documents somewhere, together. Maybe the ICC in the Hague is the place. I already have a case archived there, and they ask for more documentation.

My opinion is that this is just the start dear people. The governments in many countries made sure we are uncertain about our houses, our jobs, our food, our money and our families... Lucky are those children who will not be born in this "Hell world", because if some of us try their best to build the Heavens here, there are many others who will try their best we to live and feel it as Hell. :'( :'(

No surprise to me, as a danish citizen. Denmark is REALLY a shithole country in the social and family-policy-areas as well as several aspects of social welfare, specially when people get ill. And the population is really quite ill, its hard to find truly healthy people above 50. Claim to be liberal and all that, but in reality the system is as controlling as the Soviet -era-communism. Europe is on the way down in many ways. Denmark leading the way....

My opinion is that this is just the start dear people. The governments in many countries made sure we are uncertain about our houses, our jobs, our food, our money and our families... Lucky are those children who will not be born in this "Hell world", because if some of us try their best to build the Heavens here, there are many others who will try their best we to live and feel it as Hell. :'( :'(

Since 2009 I have made network for victims of domestic violence. In 2010 I was put to jail, because I did not want to give my 2 year older away to 3 days unsupervised visitation with the father, who had been stalking me for two years. This led a lot of other parents to contact me, and I discovered, the stories were all the same: A systemic problem in Denmark, neglected by the medias and politicians. In 2012 the municipality took my daughter, because I did not protect her against her father! in 2013 the European Unions was on a fact finding visit in Denmark and were shocked! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jE3LpdsO0wE&t=339s Later UN and The European Council have critizised the situation as well. But still, we put mothers to jail and refuse to protect children. More and more mothers escape out of Denmark, and it is breaking my heart to see, how Denmark has changed. I escaped to Faroe Islands with my children - and luckily with my youngest daughter - five years ago. Here are some of the other refugees. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jE3LpdsO0wE&t=339s And here is the only documentary, which has ever been made. It was refused on national television, and has only been brought on a local channel. It is in Danish, but it is about my network, and mothers, who protect children, who tell about abuse and are afraid of visitation. We hurt children. I am so sorry, but we need the rest of the world's attention, since Denmark has ignored UN, EU and European Council. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5YHyKojH04k&t=45s I was a former pastor in the church. I pray for the Japanese mother and her child. We need to examine the parental ability by personality tests in the psychiatry. Not as now, punish victims, when they are strong enough to escape from abusive marriages.

I think this is a very relevant article. Just like barneværnet i Norway that removes a child from a well functioning family, Denmark has Socialforvaltningen which hinders fathers from seeing their children. The social and children minister i Denmark needs to adress the issue of How so many children lose contact with their biological parents. Whether the child loses the contact with mother or with the father, it is an irreparable loss. Denmark should do more to respect the right of a child to have contact with both a mother and a father. India should not copy the horrible system of divorce from western world. Cherish a safe enviroment of a stable family. It means a lot to the well being of a child.

It is not Socialforvaltningen But it is Called Statsforvaltningen. Statsforvaltningen takes decision on How often a father or mother can see their children In Denmark. Sorry for that mistake In my comment above.

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